What to Do When It’s Obvious You’re Heading for a Divorce

You never thought this would be your story. But here you are standing at the edge of a marriage that’s unraveling. I understand what you're going through because I’ve been there. I was a complete mess.

I remember soaking my pillow with tears every night, cooking dinner for a spouse who had already left; yet my mind refused to accept that he wasn’t coming home. The emotions were overwhelming. One moment, I wanted to beg him to stay; the next, I wanted to scream at him for leaving.

I know the storm you're facing. The fear of handling everything alone. The regret. The resentment. The endless questions: How did I not see this coming? Why did I marry him? Was this all a mistake? If this is where you are, take a deep breath. You are not alone, and there is a way forward.

Your Guide to Navigating Divorce with Strength and Grace

1. Surround Yourself with Strong Supporters

You need a solid support system right now—friends, family, and if you’re part of a faith community, lean into it. Let them cry with you, listen to you, and hold space for your healing. If your workplace offers counseling services, take advantage of them. You don’t have to go through this alone.

2. Be Kind to Yourself as You Grieve

Divorce is a loss, and grief is natural. Give yourself permission to feel—without judgment. Don’t drown yourself in guilt or shame. You did the best you could with the knowledge you had at the time. Healing starts when you stop blaming yourself and embrace the fact that you are still worthy of love and joy.

3. Prioritize Your Well-being: Sleep, Eat, and Breathe

I remember standing in the shower for hours, letting the water run over me, whispering scriptures in desperation for peace. Sleep felt impossible. Maybe you’re there now. If so, take it one day at a time. Get outside, go for a walk, nourish your body with food, and remind yourself: This pain will not last forever.

4. Get Organized Financially

Now that you’re managing your finances alone, take control. Create a budget. Set up savings. Build an emergency fund. Financial stability will give you a sense of security and empowerment as you step into this new chapter.

5. Re-Invent Yourself and Design a New Future

This is not the end. It’s a beginning.

You now have the opportunity to redefine your life on your terms. Focus on your personal growth. Find new passions. Discover who you are outside of this marriage. And if you need guidance, working with a Life Reset Coach can help you gain clarity, confidence, and a powerful vision for your future.

Are You Ready to Reset Your Life?

You don’t have to navigate this alone. I specialize in helping people like you move from heartbreak to healing, from confusion to clarity, and from brokenness to a thriving, joy-filled life.

If you’re ready to take control of your future and build a life you love, let’s work together.

Click here to begin your journey with THE Life Reset Coach, Ayomide.